New, fast-track online course starts Tuesday, January 8th for 4 weeks, 7:30-9:15pm EST! Gift-economy payments for the pilot program!
The January course is sold-out. Please sign-up below and we will let you know about our February courses for men and for women
Have you had some success with women and dating, but still find them perplexing, sometimes infuriating, or simply too much work?
Have you studied with other schools of female attraction and seduction, but have found these models ineffective or deeply out of integrity?
Have you despaired of attracting an open, generous, sexy woman who would enjoy and appreciate you for who you are, while inspiring you to achieve the greatness you intuitively know you possess?
- Want to combine your passion to excel in life, with your love and desire for women…
- Wonder why women seem so fearful, defensive, angry and shut-down…
- Wish to understand them better in order to make a difference for them, but don’t know where to start…
- Have dabbled with online dating, maybe got initially excited about it, but found the women there even more fearful and confusing than the ones you meet in your regular life…
- Had negative experiences with women that left you even more jaded, hurt, lonely and horny than before…
- Think of giving up altogether, and feel a sadness and incompletion about that…
If you relate to any of this, then our new course Online Dating for Conscious Men: Strategies for Success is for you.
The course happens over online webconference (Zoom) for four consecutive weeks starting Tuesday January 8th, 7:30-9:15pm. The course is limited to 10 participants to ensure quality attention on each person.
We expect the course will fill. See Registration details below.
The course is targeted to heterosexual men who are single and looking. However, much of it will also be useful to men who are already dating or in a relationship. You will gain deep knowledge of feminine psychology and how to satisfy a woman emotionally and sexually.
To be active in online dating is not a requirement for this course, and we very much encourage you to use the learnings you acquire from this course to women you meet in all of your circles. This being said, you will likely find online dating a very powerful tool for lead-generation of quality women. We feel that online dating is a real game-changer in 21st century love and seduction, and that if you are single and looking you would be foolish to ignore it. However, there is also very little quality information available on the nature of the man/woman game and online dating, and some of this information is actually damaging.
This course is designed to fill that gap.
FORMAT OF THE COURSE, AND CURRICULUM
The course will be about 20% content presentations, and 80% discussion in either 3-4 person breakouts or in the main room (i.e. all 14 of us together). The sharing and discussion portions of the course will use a conversation format called “topical Circling”. Topical Circling is described here, and it is a subset of a deep-connection practice called Circling, which is itself a practice within the Authentic Relating movement. It will help you if you have previous experience with Circling, but it’s not necessary as most people can pick it up fairly quickly. Circling is essentially speaking from the heart, using “I” language, of your feelings in the moment and the quality of your connection with others in the room, while also opening yourself up to deep listening of other’s experience. Circling has the capacity to get us into deep-feeling and deep-connection spaces very rapidly; and from there transformation happens, lives change. It does require you show up in vulnerability. The course leaders will attempt to model this for you, but note that everyone in a circle is a leader, leadership in a circle simply consisting in showing up in vulnerability (truth) and listening (care). You can read more about circling by downloading Marc’s free book.
The curriculum of the pilot program course will be drawn from Marc’s first book As Lovers Do: Sexual and Romantic Partnership as a Path of Transformation. It is recommended but not required that you read this prior to the course (we will send you a digital copy). The other recommended reading is Mark Manson’s Models: Attract Women through Honesty, which is a fully compatible model with much practical advice as well (Manson’s ideas are also covered by As Lovers Do). However, 80% of the course will be conversations and connection exercises. This is very deep content that you cannot fully grasp or embody by reading a book, it can only be learned experientially, through discussion with your fellow-students and course leaders, and by practicing with your online dates or current sexual partners. You do not have to inform your dates or sexual partners that you are doing these practices (although you can), you simply have to do your best to show-up for them in service, following the models that you will learn in the course.
Note: the pilot program is an accelerated version of the full men’s course that will launch in February.
Week 1: Connection
In week 1 we will simply connect. There will be no content presentation. You will simply be sharing, in breakouts and in the main room, your desires and challenges relating to women, along with your perception of your self-esteem, attractiveness or other qualities that you bring to women.
Week 2: Sexual Polarity and the Psychology of Love
In week 2 we will present, and you will discuss / share / feedback / bat-around and generally push-back (no holds barred!) the fundamental sexual-polarity relationship model we will be teaching. This model is imperfect and incomplete and parts of it may be wrong for you, as there is no complete model for human loving. However, understanding this model is important even if you choose to reject it. We are convinced that the conversation around it will be fun and enlightening for you either way.
Note: we will be holding a “Circling container” for all these conversations, which basically means we ask that you come more from your heart and direct experience, and less from your own ideas and theories around women and sexuality. If we see you getting too “heady”, we will gently redirect you back into a heart-space.
References for week 2 (suggested reading): the section entitled “Sexual Polarity according to David Deida” in Marc’s article What Women Want: Towards a New Psychology of Love, Sex and Gender Relations (and/or As Lovers Do Chapters 8 and 9), and the article Online Dating and the Man/Woman Game: My Story.
Week 3: Masculine Self-investment and the Foundations of Female Sexual Attraction
In week 3 we will present the foundations of female sexual attraction, of what you need to do / who you need to become in order to be attractive to women. This follows Mark Manson’s ideas of men’s investment in themselves, and David Deida’s ideas of men being on purpose. The two most important things in becoming more attractive to women is first of all your demonstrated ability to invest in yourself, and secondly your willingness to speak your truth with love, part of which involves authentically and respectfully sharing attraction.
Week 4: Online Dating Strategies
Finally we get into the actual, proven to be effective action-steps of online dating. These strategies will be fleshed out in Marc’s next book Online Dating for Conscious Singles, for which you will get a digital copy when it is published. The 4 steps are the following:
- Find your authentic relational and sexual expression and write it on your profile. Make sure that your profile is aligned with women’s relational reality. You will probably need feedback and coaching for this, as its not that easy
- Lead Generation. Women typically won’t write to you unless you have movie-star good looks. Plus the more attractive women are inundated with mail. Therefore you will need to make the first move. You need to look for connection and synergy cues in their profiles and respond to those in writing, rather than just writing to the most attractive ones.
- Video dates. We recommend that you do all your first dates via 15 minute video chat, and that you reject in-person dates with any woman that you cannot establish some kind of emotional or intellectual connection in the first 15 minutes. Thus, the first video date is an interview, but you should not approach it in that way. Many women will resist video dates, and so you will need to find effective language here. We will teach you that.
- In-person dates, and beyond. Doing this effectively requires a fundamental attitude shift for most men. In the first date and beyond, you are not trying to enroll the most gorgeous and intelligent women into going out with you or liking you. You are probing for alignment. You are looking for the ones who are into you, that you also enjoy, and feel you can contribute to or add something to their lives. It’s possible that only one out of ten, or even twenty, is into you, so you have be patient and firm (have good boundaries). “Choose the one who chooses you” says David Deida. You need to learn to be more responsive to women. It’s okay and even necessary to respond to women from your sexual center (we’ll cover that as well) but you should not let it take over. “God gave man a brain and a penis and only enough blood to run one at a time” — Robin Williams. Don’t make that mistake.
All this is bare-bones, but it WILL get you started on the right track, and in just 4 weeks.
The January course is sold-out. Please sign-up below and we will let you know about our February courses for men and for women
If you wish to explore a private coaching relationship with Marc, you may email
and we will spend 10-20 minutes getting acquainted, clarifying your relationship goals, and making sure that this course will truly meet your need.
If it seems like a good fit and you are approved for the program, you will receive the registration page.
Given that this is the pilot launch of this program we are offering it on a gift-economy basis. There is a non-refundable $50 registration fee. To ensure your spot in the program, you must pay your registration fee.
At the end of the 4 weeks, you may give an optional donation, if you feel you have derived value from the course.
You must commit to attending all 4 evenings, short of emergencies.
Taking the pilot course will also put you at the head of the queue for the mixed-gender course which will be offered later. In the mixed-gender course you will get to practice your new skills and get immediate feedback from the women in the room.
YOUR COURSE LEADERS
Marc is an author, internet entrepreneur, and Circling leader. Marc has spent 30 years exploring human development, emotional communication and the psychology of love (that story told here), and 10 years studying, practicing, and (in some cases) receiving personal mentoring from some of the 20th century’s most brilliant man/woman and sexual teachers (that story told in As Lovers Do). Marc has spent the last 2 1/2 years intensively engaged in the study and practice of Circling, and has been leading groups for 2 year. Marc is a semi-Asperger, disembodied intellectual (although, oddly, he is a very good circling leader); and therefore he feels that if he can be successful with women, any man can. The man/woman and Circling work that he does represents his life’s work. Marc’s commitment is to show up in connection and presence to all the men and women in his life, and to continuously deepen the power and joy that is to be found in this amazing experience called Life. For more of Marc’s writings and podcasts, see the Authentic Singles Dating blog.
Daka Dan Wilson
Daka Dan (the Tantra Man) is a holistic wellness practitioner and sexual vitality consultant from Annapolis MD who is dedicated to the empowerment of others through his unique teaching gifts and passion for sexual healing.
With a background in music, martial arts, Neo-Tantric Yoga, Shamanic Energy Medicine, and Taoist Qi Gong, Daka Dan has learned from some of the best teachers in the world and is passionately driven to distill these teachings for his students. He has presented at Catharsis on the Mall, Interfusion Festival, East Coast Tantra Festival, and LoveLight Yoga and Arts Festival among others. He serves a clientele that span the entire DC region and around the world.
Having worked in person with esteemed teachers such as Grandmaster Mantak Chia, Charles Muir, Monique Darling, and Paul Sivert, Daka Dan brings a rich array of skills to his workshops and private work with clients.
Along with his personal practice working with the healing of sexual trauma in women, he helps the male-bodied to achieve levels of sexual health and vitality that they never before thought possible, enabling them to know their own body and their partners’ inside and out. His specialty is relationship coaching with businessmen to create synergy between their love-life and business so that they build upon each other, rather than destroy each other.
Dan is a male embodiment specialist. In addition to co-leading with Marc, he runs his own programs. He is available for consultations from his website
ARE YOU A WOMAN?
We will be starting a women’s course (led by our female associates) in February. Sign-up to our list below to be notified of this.
Women also frequently tell their men friends or even dates about this course, as they know the importance of this information.
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